What is love? To answer this question, it’s easier to show examples from real life than from romance novels. The tropes I enjoy most in fictional love stories are the most overblown and unrealistic—the meet cutes, and half a dozen hot guys fighting over the same girl. Those don’t happen too much in real life and if they did I know I wouldn’t react the same as the heroines. (Like who is this big tattooed guy and why is he talking to me while I’m wearing sweatpants?? Why am I such a terrible person, stringing along a harem of guys?)
In real life, love is partnership. As a third party, you can tell when it’s there and when it’s not. Both partners work as a team. They respect each other’s needs and even when frustrations run high, they know when to apologize and make things right. The relationship is too important to lose over something petty.
One of the best ways to spot real love is to separate the partners. What do they say when their spouse or SO isn’t around? It’s a huge red flag when they start trash-talking as soon as their partner’s out of sight. On the flipside, real love compliments. I love hanging out with friends who have nothing but good to say of their partners. It’s the sweetest thing!
The beauty of a love story is watching two people come together and fight on the same side. The fighting might be a little more dramatic on the page, but whether I’m writing a dystopian story or a sweet contemporary, my goal is always to have the partners end up in a place of deep respect for each other.
So what is love? Teamwork, partnership, and respect. Leave the drama to the romance heroines ; )
Quanta Reset (The Shadow Ravens #3)
by Lola Dodge
Publisher: Ink Monster
Publication Date: September 27th 2016
Quanta has escaped her laboratory prison, but that’s where the good news ends.
Life at the Shadow Ravens’ compound is a disaster. She’s drowning in visions of the dark pasts and darker futures of her fellow Ravens and is plagued by her own panic-inducing memories, but Lady Eva still expects her to “train” and “participate in missions.” Plus, the food tastes like burnt plastic.
The only bright spot is her genetic pairing to the brilliant Altair Orpheus. As their relationship grows, she’s positive that chemicals aren’t the only things drawing them together—although chemistry is definitely involved.
While they test the limits of her game-changing new ability to reset time, word arrives from Eva’s agents: Doctor Nagi is still experimenting with her DNA. If he succeeds in duplicating her power…
Forget the Shadow Ravens. The whole world is toast.
About the Author
Lola is a compulsive traveler, baker, and procrastinator. She earned her BA in English from Stonehill College and MFA in Writing Popular Fiction from Seton Hill University—and hasn’t stopped moving since. When she’s not on the road, Lola spends her time indoors where the sunlight can’t melt her, writing or bingeing on anime and cherry soda. She can be summoned in a ritual involving curry, Hello Kitty idols, and a solid chocolate pentagram.